Tip of the Week

Each week we'll offer some obvious advice for improving your personal ad experience and keeping yourself off of the Stud List.

In the last tip we discussed the correlation between language used in an ad and the types of women, if any, who respond. This week we will continue to examine reasons why you are not attracting the kind of women you are looking for.

Hopefully you are single. You decide that you are interested in meeting people and for whatever reason think that Craigslist might be a good place to do so. That could very well be your first mistake but we'll work past it. You set out with the best intentions when writing your ad. You describe yourself, what you are looking for, and clearly state that you are not interested in the likes of "whores, trannies, retards, bitches, fatties," and well you get the idea... After you finish you feel confident and excitedly wait for replies. Yet, you find yourself frustrated and disappointed when days go by and all of the emails you have received are prompting you to join chat sites. The one seemingly sincere response is from a shemale, named Pat, who's height to weight proportions grossly exceed what you think of as a "fatty".

Naturally you are wondering what went wrong.

In most cases you've cast your line out there with the wrong bait for what you're trying to catch. The concept is pretty simple. You're not going to get a swordfish with a worm. If you think to yourself  "I want a woman who is intelligent, good looking, and successful" you need to go look in the mirror. If you do not resemble that description you are faced with two options. Become it or go undelete Pat's message. It's tempting to believe you need a good woman to motivate you like Affectionate A-hole, someone to be there when you get out like Inmate #77133 , a leg to stand on like Stuart the Flamboyant Bum, or a recovering addict to attend meetings with like Badboy, to become the person you idealize yourself as. Unfortunately, the harsh reality of it is whatever you reel in with the wrong bait is only going to let the right catch get away.

To sum it up....Wait until you are in a good place in your life before pursuing a relationship or at the very least be grateful for whatever comes your way.

Until next week...

Happy Dating!